CityGirl Guide to Guilt
“Guilty as hell”
“Guilty as sin”
These are statements I grew up hearing in my Catholic environment, ensuring that I knew very early on that to do something “wrong” is a “sin” and leads to guilt, which no doubt would be dealt with in “hell”.
A scary way to stop kids from going too far out of line, but what happens when the child grows up and is still suffering feelings of guilt after every perceived “wrong doing”?
What happens is:
- You lose your confidence
- Your body and cells weaken
- You experience self-condemnation
- You put your needs last because you feel you do not deserve
- You fail to attract what you really want
- You experience pain in the body
“Guilt seeks pain” Louise Hay- Metaphysical Teacher
Yet we all experience this low vibration emotion.
We all perceive some wrong doing on our part somewhere along the line, how often, is dependent on how much you try to “follow” other people’s ideas and opinions in your life.
Essentially, we build up ideas about how we should/should not behave, when we fail to adhere to the ideas (which are not authentic for us anyway as they belong to someone else), we experience guilt.
Where did the unrealistic idea on what we should/should not do come from to begin with?
I have experienced guilt when I have not been able to follow ideas and concepts outlined by:
- The media – On how I should look
- The church- On how I should behave towards others
- My parents- On how I should spend my money
- My latest mentor – On how I should live my life
- Someone I infatuate with- On anything they do or say that I cannot live up to!
Note that these are all figures I have perceived as having more power and influence than me.
I rarely beat myself up for not being able to follow the ideas, advice or opinions of those people whom I don’t have much interest in or respect for.
So where are you beating yourself up?
Whose rules and ideas are you not able to stick to, only to suffer the guilty consequences?
If we could only realise that we are all part of a Divine Matrix and that all of our actions and inactions serve ourselves and then perhaps we may enjoy life more gracefully, understanding that we can only ever live a life according to what is important to us, not according to others.
Drop the unrealistic expectations of yourself (which only create guilt) instead live your life authentically following your own rules, ideas and intuition on what is right for you.
No guilt, no shame, just grace.
I would love to have your thoughts and feedback below, on what you feel about guilt, what makes you guilty and how does this emotion affect you?