The Guide To Peaceful Family Gatherings
This is the time of year when many families come together, for extended gatherings or just a get-together or three.
And as wonderful as that may be, it can be a trying time for many, for lots of reasons:
- old conflicts coming up
- painful emotional patterns
- people criticizing you
- loss of control of your daily routine
- party planning and preparations adding stress, and more.
On top of that if you’re a freedom loving, business building , Game of Life reading entrepreneur, it can be tough to hang out in the “old school” vibration you grew up in.
So how do you maintain your wealth consciousness and your sanity whilst returning to the training ground where you picked up your insecurities and some limited beliefs around yourself, money and success?
Well, below with the help of Leo Babauta, author of the most visited blog on the net, ZenHabits, we’ve come up with your ultimate zen family tool kit for just about every situation you may find yourself in this holiday season.
1) When your parents are boring you with stories of the old days .
Check in with your body and breath: In the middle of things happening, take a few seconds to turn your attention to your posture, how your body is feeling, whether you’ve been sitting too long, etc. And follow your breath a couple of times. This is a centering practice that brings you back to the present.
2)When your siblings aren’t treating you like the high flying business woman you are.
Notice your self-centeredness. When people frustrate or irritate us, it’s often because we are focused on what we want, how we think we should be treated, how we want everyone else to act, how the world should be. It’s important to notice this, when these feelings arise. Notice that you’re focused on yourself and your wants.
3)When your father or mother is getting angry with you or others.
Ask: What does this person need? Instead of thinking about what you want, practice asking what the other person needs. See how you can help. Put yourself in their shoes. Feel their pain, without judgment.
4)When your Mum is harping on negatively about your Dad or vice versa.
Just listen. Sometimes what people need is for you to just listen. This is something we don’t often do with 100% attention. Practice listening without judgment, without thinking about what you’re going to say next. Empathize with the person, imagine what it’s like to be them, feel what they’re trying to communicate.
5) When you’re trying to be the peacemaker and fix everybody’s problems.
Let go of control. Stress often comes because we want to control how things go. Of course, we don’t really have control — we just think we do, or want to have control. Practice letting go and letting things happen. Practice not resisting what happens. Practice being happy no matter what happens.
6) When your parents criticise your spending habits.
Simply smile and visualise the next desire you have and how the money will appear for that just as it has for everything else, live in luxury not lack.
7) When your Nonna (Grandma) comments on your weight.
Practice appreciation mentally affirm how gorgeous you look, how perfect your body is at this time in your life and immediately go do something loving for yourself and for her. Often those that criticise are highly critical of themselves, give some love.
This post was inspired by and edited from Family Gatherings:The Ultimate Mindfulness Training Ground over on ZenHabits.Net
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