CityGirl Guide to…Greater Self-Esteem For The Humble City Woman
“Self-Esteem should be constant no matter how high your last victory or how low your last defeat” A. Weiss
Many people are locked up in a prison of low self-esteem.
If you are one of them keep reading!
Your low self-esteem has a dramatic impact on what you experience in your life, for example:
- Your finances will be low because you don’t feel worthy of earning what your contribution deserves; you won’t even know what you deserve!
- Your relationship (if at all existent) will have an imbalance of “power”, you’re likely to have attracted a “dictator” or you will often feel on eggshells around your partner.
- Your social life will be draining because you hang out with “takers” and people in your life who constantly suck your energy dry.
- Your health, vitality and image will be poor because you don’t invest yourself and your body.
Interestingly the Oxford Dictionary terms the meaning of self-esteem as: A realistic or favorable impression of oneself.
Realistic being the key word here!
Most sufferers of low self-esteem are not realistic instead they compare themselves to a fantasy figure or authority figure in the media or in their own social or vocational circle.
This comparing robs you of your greatest self-esteem in two ways:
1- You can’t live up to the fantasy because surprise surprise it’s not real!
2- In the moment you compare yourself you minimize your own magnificence, beauty and wealth whilst maximizing theirs.
My Own Self-Esteem
I know because I was a classic sufferer of very low self esteem in my teens and early twenties, I still suffer today in some areas of my life which I’m seeking to empower.
What I’ve discovered though through this personal experience and in working with clients, whether to address their Work, Wealth, Well-being or Image, is that your high self-esteem is hidden in the areas of life you value most and even higher self-esteem is awakened as you empower the areas in your life that are causing you the most stress!
When you see others as having high self-esteem it’s because they are living in alignment with what is truly important to them rather than projecting or injecting who they should be, where they should be by now or how they should look.
I am often considered confident and as having high self-esteem to have left my Teaching day job, steady salary and moved to a country where I don’t yet speak the language. (Some of course prefer to call me Mad!)
Yet I had the self-esteem to jump into this ocean of uncertainty because it’s in pursuit of my purpose , an area of high value to me.
Confidence Vs Arrogance
There is of course a difference though between having high self-esteem and being arrogant, as I recently learned from America’s leading consultant Alan Weiss who suggests that:
Confidence is: The honest to goodness belief that you can help others learn and grow through your own talent.
Arrogance is: The honest to goodness belief that you can help others grow through your own talent but you have nothing left to learn yourself!
If you have nothing to learn form anyone around you especially those who are empowered in the areas you are suffering in, then it’s time to leave the planet altogether or endure a very long, boring and painful future!
You decide, either way here is to your highest self-esteem.
5 Tips to Greater Self-Esteem
1. Find out what is most important to you in your life in doing so you will discover where you are always supremely confident!
2.Empower any aspect of your life that is causing you stress, brain noise or making you beat yourself up regularly. E.G Eating patterns, Image, Clutter, Finances, Career or Education.
3. Shut-Up! If you cannot speak about or to yourself kindly then don’t speak at all.
4.Examine why you get worked up and take criticism or objection so personally.
5. Stop waiting for perfection and just get started, no matter what it costs or how long it takes invest in yourself and the future , the return will be worth it.
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Alan Weiss’s Book: Thrive
Post written by Grace.A.Kelly