The Guide To Finding Peace
We’ve been doing an information detox over on the CityGirl Facebook group.
See when you find truth, nothing else makes sense.
For about the last 6-12 months I’ve unconsciously been letting go of engaging with all the information out there.
Have you noticed we’re inundated daily with messages that keep pointing to what we’re lacking?
We’re being told that we don’t know enough and we’re not enough and we need to be careful with our thoughts, our words, the people we surround ourselves with.
It’s enough to make even the most confident person insecure.
For those of you who know me, you’ll know that I bought into these messages for a long time,
I spent years caught up in the idea that if I could just achieve more then I’d be OK.
The world encouraged this idea overloading me with information on how to “get there”, how to achieve more.
Promising me that not only would I be OK as a result but also I’d be celebrated, looked up to and ultimately approved of.
So, I innocently bought the information and set off on my journey with the deep desire to be of service but with the underlying insecurity that in doing so then I’d be OK.
I found myself overwhelmed needing to follow all the information that kept telling me to put my faith in what books I read, what affirmations I said, my mindset, who I surrounded myself with, what tools I used to grow my biz.
I was having to control my thinking, the people around me and my outer circumstances, often feeling that if I didn’t, my life and business might not work.
Looking back I can now see that I was innocently lost in thought, afraid even.
There was no enjoyment or peace in living this way.
At one point I recall staying in one of Hollywood’s most luxurious hotels where I was seeing clients, a massive achievement for a brand new coach, sleeping in the rooms that the movies stars had slept in, but I couldn’t relax.
I was convinced my unease was coming from the room, the service, my boyfriend.
We changed room 3 times during that stay and I didn’t enjoy a moment of it.
I didn’t know at that stage that thought created feeling.
I assumed, like many innocent humans, that the outer was creating my inner.
I didn’t know that wellbeing and peace are our true nature and how we feel when not lost in the content of our personal thinking.
Roll on a couple of years and I had the good fortune of coming across a new paradigm in psychology.
The truth, as I call it.
In discovering the truth I began to see that my wellbeing and peace of mind had nothing to do with “out there” and that my confidence had nothing to do with achieving more.
I learned that we’re wired for success and that it doesn’t depend on controlling your thinking, your circumstances or your environment.
It’s not even about having positive thoughts!
You can imagine my relief when I was finally allowed to think whatever I wanted to and see that my life didn’t fall apart.
I discovered through these principles, that underlie the human experience, that we’re innately well, at peace and confident, it’s who we really are.
That through the principles of Thought, Mind & Consciousness we experience life.
The principle of Mind being most comforting to me, one that I describe to my clients as being “the wisdom and energy that turns embryos into babies and acorns into oak trees without you or I doing anything about it”.
These principles spoke to me so deeply that it’s made everything else out there look like useless information.
Life began to look like a big game in fact.
A game based on insecurity promoting that you need to be careful, that you’re not enough as you are, that if you’re to succeed you must give up everything else and control your life.
What an exhausting way to live!
Fear based information generating even more insecure thought in innocent human beings, whose biggest game happens to be insecurity because they were never told that peace, wellbeing and success is their true nature.
Somebody should have told us.
I’m grateful I’ve found the way to living content.
To now enjoy my life exactly where I am, to know that underneath the noise, I’m always OK.
And whilst I still get caught up in the game at times, worrying about being in the right place, doing the right thing, having the right image, it doesn’t have the same hold anymore.
I’m at peace more often than not.
So I’m sharing what I’ve seen in the last year, which is that you don’t need more information.
What you need is already in you.
There’s a wisdom within and around you that wants you to grow and get you to where you desire to go.
Getting lost in thought is just part of the game but if you’ll settle down a minute when you feel lost or insecure, rather than speed up further, you’ll come home to your true nature and the wisdom, clarity and peace that awaits you there.