Why you can’t find your purpose
Today the sea is sparkling here in Puglia.
The sun is beaming and my stomach full of a lunch I overate in a desperate attempt to silence my creative urge to write.
Sometimes it’s easier to stuff our faces, dull our senses or sleep ourselves into oblivion, than to take simple actions in the direction of our dream life/ career.
We fall “off track” by comparing ourselves to the “greats” we admire.
We read about them, we study them closely on Facebook and ultimately at some point we become greenly envious of these fantasy figures.
All such strategies are a way to distract us from our purpose and creative potential.
Playing small and falling into perfectionist tendencies, typical of Parisienne CityGirl behavior, is yet another distracting device.
Like yesterday, after 3 days of procrastination, I finally completed an application form for a $100,000 opportunity.
Part of the application process was to outline why I would be the best candidate for this position.
Here, like many women, when faced with the question “why me” , I found myself stuck.
Thinking about why I might be the best, I began to consider the opposite, focusing on past experiences that weren’t up to scratch, instead of getting the application done.
“At root procrastination is an investment in fantasy. We’re waiting for that elusive moment when we will work perfectly.” Julia Cameron.
I wonder how many of you experience the same self-defeating block when faced with owning your potential and getting the job done?
There’s an inherent need for all of us to be on purpose and therefore of service to others in the best way we can, but most of us don’t know how great a service we could actually contribute because we’re so stuck on finding the purpose and getting it “right.”
So we stop and barely give any real service at all.
What blocks many from creating the way out and into what they’re here to do and what they could earn, is often an underlying fear that they are not good enough.
Good enough for what?
Good enough compared to who?
How could you not be good enough for your God given purpose?
This is essentially a deep rooted belief in lack.
This lack plays out in your money and your energy , then you wonder why you burn-out in either or both.
Faced with the “why me” question in filling out that application form and considering that 6-figure price tag involved, I looked out over the Ionian Sea and saw the expansiveness of the ocean.
The abundance of nature everywhere .
My entire horizon is filled with more than enough, enough water, enough sun, enough air, yours too.
So why would we dare to think we are anything less than that?
Here are some essential tasks to help you move forward with discovering your purpose this week , commit to spending time alone and complete the following:
- List 25 things you have “enough” of in your life, this will move you from a feeling of lack to abundance within seconds preparing the way for clarity.
- Write 5 strategies you use to block yourself from “knowing” , for example do you reach for food, coffee, Facebook or emails when faced with spare time during which you could meditate, create and discover what drives you? Commit to noticing and then eliminating any of these blocking strategies in the week ahead, self-awareness is always the first step to discovery!
- Consider applying for or investing in something you are procrastinating on, ask yourself:
- Why me?
- Why is now the best time to do this?
- Why shall I do it in this way?
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