The Guide To Non-Comparison
As women we fall prey to the comparison eye.
On Facebook we watch how easy it looks for others to live the life of their dreams often forgetting that:
a) It’s not our dream.
b) It’s preventing us from creating what we truly desire.
I’m not saying that what’s shared isn’t real, I’m the first one to promote my highlights when things go well, but rather that what’s shared is only one side of the picture most of the time.
Like the woman who’s suddenly selling major packages at high price tags, well that’s great but what she didn’t tell you was that her husband lost his job and she’s now the sole earner with 3 kids to feed, so she’s gotta get that money in fast.
Or the woman whose jet setting all over the world, what she isn’t saying is how bored and lonely she feels living life in the sky.
You see most people’s highlights are fabulous to watch but behind all great success there’s usually been some motivation, in the form of pain.
Pain, more than pleasure ,is fuel.
The pain for you arrives when you assume you should be doing, achieving or acting exactly the same.
And so begins your block to success.
Instead of taking action on what you’d really love to do, you think you should be more like “her”.
Even comparing yourself and stewing in “why her and not me”?
The answer may be that she’s in alignment with what she really wants and she’s definitely in more pain.
Be it financial, vocational or other, pain drives us to the next level and you can guarantee it’s driving her.
Enough burnout got this CityGirl out of her day job, remember?
So stop comparing and wishing and hoping and instead decide what you really desire by being true to your values and clear on your pain.
The Guide To Non-Comparison
Focus on yourself, yes you, watching how others are doing it may be helpful short term but is that really you?
Consider how you’d love to serve and ask yourself the three “whys” to speed up your desire and get you out there.
- Why now?
- Why me?
- Why in this way?
2)Clarity over Confidence
Most confidence issues are really clarity issues, when you’re crystal clear you’ll just go for it despite the fear so instead of beating yourself up and watching “her “thinking you don’t have what it takes , get some support in becoming crystal clear on what you’d love, or take time out if you can afford to away from your natural environment.
Remember clarity precedes purpose and prosperity , always!
3)Action not infatuation
Taking gentle action in the direction of your desire is the fastest route to your success. Infatuating with or resenting “her” keeps you stuck.Consider what action can you take today to ensure your success this month or this year?
Discover how to move out of comparison mode and into success mode doing more of what you’d love.
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