The Guide To Handling Criticism
People talk about having writer’s block, I used to wonder what that meant.
I always enjoyed writing and speaking, foreign languages were especially easy for me.
But when it comes to sitting down and actually writing, blogging or simply communicating your message many of us get “stuck”.
I believe we get stuck for two reasons:
1) We’re choosing perfect over purpose
2) We’re too worried about what people will think.
It wasn’t easy, we had to deal with the perfectionist within and we had to address fears around what others think of our work.
I sat with gifted writers, artists and designers, some of who have taken up to 20-year creative detours, because someone once told them they weren’t “good enough” at what they do.
I thought about Chanel and how if she’d been in the room with us, cigarette in hand, she’d have told us to forget about those stupid critics and just get back on the horse.
In listening to others I felt relieved that my own creative spirit had not been subject to such major attack.
Or maybe I just created a level of confidence that does not give in to unsolicited feedback, criticism and poor advice?
But I’m by no means untouchable.
No one likes criticism.
And what struck me most was just how dangerous criticism is, especially for coaches and entrepreneurs whose businesses and message depends on being seen, heard and visible.
Our lives depend on putting ourselves out there.
As I sat in the room watching Julia with her crazy blonde hair gently deliver her message of hope to all of us who experience criticism and forms of block, I felt grateful to have met her.
Because of Julia I forgo the critics and simply write.
And if there’s one thing that makes me feel accomplished, confident and visible in my business it’s writing this Guide and communicating with you each week.
The Guide To Handling Criticism (As suggested by Julia Cameron)
1) Receive the criticism all the way through, get it over with.
2) Afterwards makes notes on what phrases really bothered you.
3) Ask yourself if any part of the criticism is true for you?
4) Record if any phrases were actually useful (useful criticism leaves you feeling like a light bulb just went off, useless criticism leaves you confused).
5) Immediately go do something kind for yourself. Call your coach, make some tea, and sit in the sun.
6) Later write a letter to your critic, not to be posted, get all your feelings out on the page. Burn it.
7) Get back on the horse by doing whatever it is that makes you feel good. Write more, Vlog, Dress up and go dancing.
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