The Guide To Competing Fearlessly
Competition is fuel.
So why not use it as such?
Instead many women suppress their competitive nature believing it to be wrong.
In my view that’s because competition has been confused with jealousy, which at its core is a belief in lack.
You try to hide your competitive nature because deep down you believe there’s only room for one at the top.
With that belief you either fail to put yourself in the game
You enter an exhausting race to be the best and get to the finish line first.
Is it any wonder you then burnout?
This is not competing; it’s repeating the pattern of lack.
A lack of trust in your own purpose.
A lack of trust that there’s enough for you.
When this lack is coupled with a deep need for approval, the result turns ugly.
Like the time I won a place, after previous rejections, to model in a high profile fashion show, alongside Miss World and some national celebrities, I should have been really confident but was so insecure that I spent the entire preparation time binge eating Mars bars and comparing myself to the stick insects.
The result was weight gain and major shame right before the show!
Our self-esteem, you see, must not be based on winning and being the best.
That recognition must come from within.
But if you’re to get to where you want to go, you must stop leaking the very fuel that will get you airborne and start competing fearlessly ,not jealously , by putting yourself in the game, regardless of the highs and lows.
The Guide To Competing Fearlessly.
1) Stop watching and take action.
Action is the antidote to all jealousy and lack. Instead of stewing get to doing!
Action– Do a post mortem on your successes so far . Get clear on what makes you great.
List what’s worked out? What have you achieved? Where are you now compared to where you were?
Keep your eyes on your own success , this way you’ll use your competitive fuel effectively and gracefully to win the game.
2) Know when not to respond.
The more you grow the more you’ll begin to attract the green eyed monsters. Remember that those who compete with you personally are generally very insecure, it’s best to bless them than to respond.
Action- Remember the Divine selection is always at work, so there’s really nothing to fear, you can’t lose that client, job or position to someone else when it’s rightfully yours.
Instead of getting caught in the lack and jealousy war simply don’t even bother to respond. You need your fuel for the wins you’re creating!
3) Choose your competition carefully.
The Forbes List had been on my radar for the last 12 months; I was fuelling up for it unconsciously all along.
Action- Get clear on what’s worth competing for in your values and career, then commit to going after it relentlessly and fearlessly by
A) Visualizing your win daily.
B) Fixing up your business, service or CV to match what’s required to win.
C) Practicing self-care regularly because if it’s anything like the Forbes List, you’re going to need plenty of energy when you’re selected for takeoff!
NB: Thanks to all of you my dear readers, clients and friends for nominating CityGirl Confidence over on Forbes, they took note, they listened to YOU and now we can gracefully say we competed fearlessly and received this Divine award. Gratitude ,Grace
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I invite you to join me for a complimentary 30 Mins Discovery Session where we’ll get clear on next steps in your career so you can become more fulfilled, visible and inspired doing work you love.