The Guide To Being Breadwinner
For a moment I wondered if these Italians were shouting “congratulations” about my recent Forbes success and if so how did they know about it?
Then it dawned on me that they were pointing at my dog , congratulating myself and Francesco on Hachi’s beauty , as though we’d branded him ourselves.
Like when I returned to Italy and informed my Nonna of CityGirl’s expanding media publicity , all she could say was
“I don’t like your hair in these photos”.
I wondered if life was perhaps simpler in her day where men took care of money and business and women had time to look after their hair and the home ?
My , how tables have turned.
Yes it seems modern women are returning to their original role in hunting-gatheing days , where they co-provided , but I know many women entrepreneurs and corporates who today are the sole providers in families and/or relationships.
I’m temporarily one of them and this my dear readers is fast becoming the norm in our society.
But are you prepared for that change of role?
Or resisting against it and allowing it to affect your most intimate relationships?
Somewhere amongst all this business building and breadwinning, I wonder if there’s a growing ickiness within our male female relationships as they take on a new and less traditional form.
And it’s not good old male chauvinism that’s the cause of any stress but rather women’s resistance to a changing world where she’s finally getting what she wants ,which includes a more purposeful career and life and with that a new found role in her relationship as the richer sex.
The Guide To Being Breadwinner
1)Find the fair exchange
If you are feeling icky about your new found role as breadwinner you can actually safeguard your relationship early on by recognizing where your partner is providing for you to an equal monetary value.
Action-List all the ways he’s helped create your success/career so far. Write a personal thank you letter for your own benefit describing how his being in your life is contributing to where you’re headed. Put a price on his contribution so far.
2)Get grateful for purpose.
Is it really likely you’d be making such an effort and being of such service in a way that is more inspiring to you if he was making loads of cash?Doubtful.
Action: List 25 benefits to your business and /or career that you’re the breadwinner right now and what this role is really awakening in you. For example are you empowering yourself financially finally? Are you learning how to manage money? Are you feeling safer when you argue because you have cash in the bank?
3)Ditch Downton Abbey and your mother’s role.
For generations women were bored out of their minds bringing up kids and living, in some cases ,in very fancy homes. Yes it looks glam, yes your Dad earned more than your mum but consider how bored you’d be if you were totally provided for.
Action. What would be the drawbacks to your health, wealth and happiness if you didn’t have to earn and if you currently didn’t have the responsibility of providing for both of you? Trust me there are some!
4)Give your man some credit.
He sees you flourishing and going for it and is likely beating himself up for not being as “inspired” as you, sure he may not show it, their macho men right? Worst of all he really doesn’t need his masculinity demeaned further by asking you for money or to pay bills so….
Action: Keep his vibration and man hood high by listening intently, being patient with where he’s at in his own career and consider merging your accounts or paying some into his so he has access to credit for himself, bills or other. Seriously Ladies you don’t want the money story to ruin the love story!
5) Stop being a martyr.
You need support woman if you’re the business owner, the breadwinner, the cleaner, the lover, the chef, the mother, the wife or any and all of the above. It’s in the interest of your relationship and your finances to prioritize your own self-care and really step into your power and purpose fully today.
Action: Hire a cleaner. Get weekly massages. Try therapy or invest in a coach , above all stop acting like you have to do it all and recall that as the emerging richer sex and in your new financially empowering role, you can now have it all!
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