Self-Care, Why Every Woman Needs More Of It This Christmas
Are you self-destructive?
That’s the question I keep opening up at in Julia Cameron’s The Artist’s Way.
It freaks me out because I often feel I’m a bit too good to myself actually.
That’s a destructive thought in itself; like there’s a limit on how much good we deserve?
But truth is many career women feel like there is a limit on what they deserve to receive.
They feel more comfortable giving their all at work, at home, with clients or friends.
But how many of you are starting to feel a little burnt-out not to mention resentful about all the doing and giving you’ve taken on?
Instead of asking for help or taking a break, you’ll over-eat, over-work or get caught up in the festive rush, you’ll do anything to avoid asking for the assistance you deserve.
Is it possible we’re confusing self-destruction with being “good little girls”?
Like how “good” do you have to be in order to meet with approval?
This virtue trap , as Cameron describes it, is typical Parisienne CityGirl behaviour. (More on CityGirl archetypes will be revealed very soon!!)
The Parisienne has many beautiful attributes but she’s also the part of you who takes on way too much in a bid to make everyone else’s life easier , often at the expense of her own.
She’s the creator within you but you block this creativity, the source of all your vitality and wealth, with busyness, workaholism and a grueling routine.
She’s the part of you that often feels guilty about saying “no”.
Are you evoking her a little too much this holiday season?
Well if so ,
I encourage you to nurture this vulnerable, sensitive and delicate woman within right now.
Start by giving yourself permission to stop.
Stop being the “good little girl” who has to keep the peace and do everything herself.
Stop pushing yourself so hard and enjoy where you’re currently at.
Stop rushing so much and instead prioritise what you really want to do, delegate the rest.
Stop taking on everyone else’s stories and demands and commit to a daily practice of self-care.
Self-Care will obliterate any possibility of self-destruction this Christmas time.
And believe me filling your days with busyness, ample tasks and not asking for help is self-destructive.
I know I’ve been there, it leads to burn-out as well as anger, blame and criticism.
Not much fun for you by the time you reach Christmas day!
Self-Care Manifesto for busy CityGirls everywhere
Self-Care means giving to others because you want to not because you have to.
Self-Care means investing in yourself whether it’s a weekly massage, a gym membership or by hiring a mentor to get you to the next level.
Self-Care means giving up your need for approval and instead learning to say no to others.
Self-Care means asking for what you really want instead of suffering in silence and blaming others.
Self-Care requires you to give up your perfectionist habits because “imperfectly done” is closer to manifesting your dreams than not done at all!
Self-Care demands that you schedule a date with yourself at least once per week where you commit to doing something you’d love by yourself.
Much gratitude to you my dear readers for all your comments and support on the blog this year, Grace xx
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