5 Ways Women Can Make Decisions Confidently
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
Is it this? This? This?
These are the questions I used to be bombarded with when faced with choices.
Yet another reminder of how much brain noise can flood your mind when trying to make the “right” decision as opposed to just making a decision!
We’re living in a world of multiple choices right now, which is delightfully exciting but at the same time crippling to the already busy career woman out there.
On top of that with constant media noise and stories about “lack” from those around us it can be scary to even consider making decisions where your money, time or energy could be at risk.
So how do you make a decision confidently and know that it’s the right one ?
You just do it and watch the Universe provide!
In the past I was never very good at decisions, I constantly vacillated, always fearing that I might make a mistake and later regret it.
This is typical of an out of sync Parisienne who, in times of uncertainty, can lack trust in her ability to follow through and bring in the money, time or energy she needs.
The truth is you can bring in whatever you need it you’ll only first commit.
Since uncovering what really inspires me and taking risks in those areas , I’ve noticed a massive increase in support from “unexpected quarters” and subsequently I’ve become more confident in my decisions, despite the initial “risk”.
Major decisions like investing in support with high-end mentors, travelling to London regularly, (sometimes with as little as £180 in my pocket) , hosting an event in Paris, hiring a stylist for my events, things that required “big financial leaps” at the time, have really built my trust and faith in a supportive Universe.
If I’d have waited until all was tangibly available and perfectly in place these dreams of mine would never have manifested!
I believe you too can create the dream life and career you desire and that the basis of this is about deciding to trust yourself and deciding to create what you need to make it happen.
The tips below will guide you on making confident decisions.
CityGirl Guide: 5 Ways Women Can Make Decisions More Confidently
1- Know Thyself
Find out what drives you and make your decisions based on that.
You can uncover what’s really driving you by considering:
- What you talk about most.
- What you spend your money on most.
- What you always have time and energy for.
- Where you’re most disciplined.
- What’s non-negotiable for you.
2. Act then attract.
3- Strive for success not perfection.
Most of my clients are high achievers, whose biggest obstacle to easy decision making is their fear of failure .
This “what if I get it wrong” syndrome is perfectionism at it’s best and is notorious amongst successful women.
But what is perfect anyway?
You can’t measure it so stop trying too instead aim for success by creating metrics that you desire to see manifest.
Look at your list of metrics (how you know you’ll have be successful) and the time frame for which you’d like to create these in.
Are they realistic for you , your energy and time or do they scare the life out of you?
Choose the former!
4- Stop seeking approval.
The more people you ask advice for on your decision the more confused you’ll become.
People give unsolicited feedback all the time and they base their response on what they would do.
Are they you?
With your values and your purpose?
No. so why ask them?
If you find yourself constantly asking for advice on your decision you’re not trusting yourself so simply implement step 5 regularly and try this meditation beaming the word “Trust”.
5- Shut it.
Sometimes you’re going to have so much noise in your head regarding a decision to make that the only thing to do is to get out of your head altogether.
It’s best to do this by slowing down completely, that might mean pouring yourself a good glass of vino and sipping it mindfully or it may mean engaging in some sex, dance or exercise.
Great ideas solutions come from movement and when we detach from the outcome and discover that all decisions are leading us to purpose, then we can be confident that our decisions are always right!
What are your biggest obstacles when it comes to making decisions?