CityGirl Guide: 5 Tips To Supersize Your Self-Esteem
I’m currently in Dublin, home to where my journey towards self-transformation truly began.
I studied here at University for 4 years; it was a fabulous time during which I also became interested in Healing, Style and Self-Realization.
Quite a mix I know!
Yet all three of these interests are still with me today and without them I doubt I would be in the position I’m in now owning great health, living La Dolce Vita in Italy with my honey and doing the work I love.
That’s the thing about passion, purpose and interests, in the end they can take you much further than any qualification or degree.
Today as I met with some delightful Irish CityGirls it was evident that they have major passions and purpose to follow through.
Yet many are finding it difficult to realize their dreams, sometimes too caught up with the idea that they’re not qualified or worthy enough to experience them.
Luckily, the great thing about transformation in any area of your life is that you don’t need any sort of degree!
All you need is vision and loads of Self-Esteem!
So where did your youthful abundance of Self-Esteem go anyway?
Well that depends on your own circumstances and life experiences but the most common confidence killer I see with clients time and again is guilt.
- You feel guilty if you invest in yourself , so you play small .
- You feel guilty if you put yourself before others so instead you exhaust yourself putting others first.
- You feel guilty if you have to say No, so you say yes hoping for approval.
Carrying such guilt is ruining your naturally abundant Self-Esteem.
And sadly instead of addressing the guilt you then decide it’s easier to hide your light and not follow your dreams because you feel you don’t deserve to realise your true potential anyway.
Nothing could be further from the truth!
You do deserve to do the work you enjoy and to live the life you desire, if you have a vision you’re half way there now let’s look at supersizing your self-esteem.
5 Tips To Supersize Your Self-Esteem
1- Don’t accept unsolicited feedback , it’s always for the sender’s benefit!
That means no more buying into the criticism or “help” others are giving you without your request. Instead seek feedback from those you truly trust everyone else is throwing in their penny’s worth of fear and threat.
2- Take inventory of your successes not your weaknesses.
True self-esteem and opportunity comes from building on your successes not on your weaknesses, so stop dwelling on what went wrong and seek to replicate and build on your successes instead.
3. If you get nervous focus on service.
No one cares how good you are or how qualified you are they care how good they’re going to be after working with you. The tip here is to follow your purpose , stick to what you love and watch your confidence soar.
4. Stop apologising.
Every time you say sorry (Irish CityGirls take note) you’re affirming what a sorry state you think you really are! It’s fine to be polite but if you constantly need to apologize for your actions, delays or life you have a major self-esteem issue. Stop it.
5. Balance your perspective Woman!
If you continue to think that your actions in the past caused more loss than gain and more pain than pleasure you’ll carry guilt.
Get some perspective woman, this is real life and whether you believe it or not the Universe knows what it’s doing, you’re just playing your role in someone else’s life so stop beating yourself up so often thinking you’ve made a big “mistake”.
What’s really preventing you from experiencing your greatest self-esteem and life today ?
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