5 Secrets To A Successful Life & Career
“When everything is a priority nothing is a priority”. Alan Weiss.
Think about it.
You spend your days rushing around trying to do it all and what happens?
Nothing gets done.
In the background society applauds you for being such a workaholic, as if busy equals success, but…
Underneath the busy mask you’re suffering.
You suffer because you fight against the clock .
You’re in pain financially because you don’t ask for help; you don’t even know how to voice your needs to those around you for fear of what they’ll think or say about you.
Stuck in eggshell syndrome in your relationships you fail to delegate and instead put your efforts into being the perfect partner, colleague or friend, then you wonder why you get so angry or burn out.
What else is your body or bank account supposed to do if you insist on living a life less than inspiring , based on other people’s priorities or approval of you?
Truth is , if you’re to have it all then you can’t do it all and be it all , to all people.
Something or someone’s gotta give.
And guess what ?
This time it’s not you.
You’re giving enough and you know it.
The most successful people out there know if you’re to be successful and inspired you’ve got to be prioritizing yourself and your desires.
They know how to prioritize NO.1 and the inspiring stuff too.
Then they delegate the rest.
They don’t have time for guilt trip shit from those around them.
They’re on purpose.
They’re not counting pennies and wondering if they’ll get in trouble for spending more money , in fact, because they’ve got their priorities straight (and accountability in place )they’re making decisions fast and more money than the rest.
So let me ask you this….
What about you?
Are you suffering silently or prioritizing successfully?
And if you’re suffering are you willing to speak up and prioritize you and what you love , even at the expense of pissing others off around you?
Here’s a guide to get you there gracefully….
5 Secrets To A Successful Life & Career
1)Put your own oxygen mask on first.
Airlines advise this 30,000 feet up when things go wrong , I’m advising it whilst you’re on the ground and all is still well!
Action: Bring some oxygen into your life daily by prioritizing self-care and you time. Book that massage you’ve been putting off. Cook and eat a nutritious meal or even better get someone else to cook it if it’s not what you love. Put the kids to bed and savour that class of wine, hire that assistant.
In all cases and at all times if you’re to be a success it’s crucial you put your own oxygen mask on first .
2) Breakthrough the guilt.
Giving into someone’s guilt trip is like giving a recovering shopaholic your credit card, you’ll both get burned even if it’s somewhere glamorous like Gucci!
Action: Either fix the relationship with a mediator or remove yourself altogether from those sucking you dry, that includes your family. You can also stop enabling guilt trippers by no longer rushing to their demands every time they cry. With reduced brain noise and lighter energy related to your relationships you can get on with creating the life and career you truly deserve now.
3)Delegate the “should”
Every time you “should” yourself you’ll know that you’re choosing someone elses’s priorities over your own, this is a big success killer.
Action- Next time you should yourself ,think about who’s really doing the talking in your mind, it’s usually someone you’re on eggshells around or giving too much power too. Instead delegate the activity right back at them. Here’s an example:
“I should clean the bathroom”
According to who?
Delegate him to clean it if it’s so important to him (just be sure he’s not Italian) or get yourself a cleaner , the 20 quid you pay her and the time you save will earn you at least 5 times that if you commit to your priorities instead.
4) Consider your true priorities in life and stick to them.
You really only have 4 major driving factors going on in your life at any one time and when you know what these “priorities” are you gain self-mastery, direction and purpose.
Because it’s never what you say that’s important it’s what your life demonstrates, let’s look at yours more closely to find the highest priorities.
Action: Consider your top 3 answers for each
A) What do you do with your time in one day?
B) Where are you most disciplined?
C) What do you always find or have money for? (After bills)
Look for patterns in these 9 answers you now have and consider if any overlap.
For example perhaps you spend your time researching, then you’re most disciplined when it comes to studying and you always have money for books or courses, there’s clearly an overlap here so what might you might call this area of life that’s a high priority to you?
5) Get some personal attention and major support on your exact steps to success today
Every successful person has support so why wouldn’t you?
If you’d love to….
- Learn how to prioritise yourself without the shame and guilt
- Learn how to communicate your needs to those around you so you can get on purpose once and for all
- Develop ways to increase your self-esteem dramatically on a daily basis so you can earn more money in less time doing what you love or
- If you simply need clarity on what you’re here to do and how you can create an inspiring and successful life and career , then join me on the Free Discovery Sessions by booking here.
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