5 Rules For Handling Criticism So You Can Step Into The Spotlight With Your Career
“Objection is always a sign of interest”. Alan Weiss
You’re stuck in your day job because you can’t handle objection and criticism, not because you don’t know what you want to do.
It’s safe there surrounded by corporate walls where you get to belong to society’s “norm”.
You earn your salary the hard way and taking the tube to work you “fit in” with everyone else who’s on this ride.
Truth is everyone else is dying inside.
Just like you.
It’s not that you can’t leave the rat race or the steady job, it’s that you fear the objection and criticism you’ll face if you do.
Or perhaps you’re one of the lucky ones , you’ve escaped the City and set up on your own but you find yourself back to square one, totally invisible and working to death because now the pay check is dependent on you .
You’re evoking the “happy go lucky entrepreneur” on social media and elsewhere but this mask is see-through, we know you’re equally scared of what others think of you.
What if you learned to love the objection and to handle the criticism , your greatest fear , and in turn you live your life being on purpose with an inspiring career ?
If I could do it so can you……
5 Rules For Handling Criticism
1)Always take objection as a sign of interest
I learned this from a consulting master, Alan Weiss, if people weren’t even curious or interested in what you’re doing they wouldn’t bother to object.
Instead of running a mile when you hear the words “no” , “but” or “you can’t” or “I don’t have the funds to buy right now” seek to discover what’s behind the objection, you’ll usually find it’s a fear that the other person is actually ready for you to breakthrough with them.
2) Do not accept unsolicited feedback.
That is feedback that people share with you for their benefit. It’s often ambiguous in content, personal and somewhat shaming. E.g” You’ve put on weight” “That colour doesn’t suit you” or “I know you won’t mind me saying this but”.
This feedback usually comes from those closest , they think they’re being helpful when in fact they’re saying things for their own benefit. Don’t accept it , if you need advice in your life do what every successful woman does, get a coach!
3) Don’t tell your Daddy.
There’s usually one big figure in your life still running the show, the one you need to be good enough for, the one you’re still trying to prove yourself to.
Whoever it is it’s time to stop telling them your plans and desires. Practice self-leadership by making your own decisions then when you have collated enough results from doing so , share your victory with them and let it go, the evidence will speak for itself.
4) Get back on the horse
The most effective way to handle criticism, (especially if you’ve ignored step 2) is to simply hear it all the way through then go off and continue to do what you’re doing anyway.
You can’t afford to wallow in criticism especially in the early stages of transformation when you may be feeling shit scared and not knowing where to go!
Cameron describes it this way : “Taking the first doubt (criticism) is like picking up the first drink for an alcoholic, you mustn’t allow it to take hold”.
Instead get back on the horse and win the race, you’re a CityGirl not a redneck, ride stylishly do what you love.
5) Develop self-esteem
Fear of criticism stems from low self-esteem, the fastest way to increase self-esteem is to do things that scare you regularly.
Get in front of that audience , invest in the holiday or service that’s beyond what you think you can afford, put yourself on the line, it’s the only way to build self-trust and greater self-esteem.
Remember objection is always a sign of interest and criticism is rarely about you!
If you’d love more visibility, clarity and opportunity to do what you love in a way that is inspiring to you and to others then I invite you to join me in a complimentary Discovery Session where you’ll discover the essence of your message and brand.