3 Ways To Quit The Habits Of A Lifetime
Are you a “leave it to the last minute” kind of Girl?
This is a post about being so good at procrastination and crap at organization.
My latest last minute rush resulted in my “beetroot ” coloured OPI nail varnish spilling all over my bathroom’s terracotta tiled floor.
Yes I did say beetroot coloured!
Yet again I was running late and in my rush to get ready, I hit the nail varnish off the top shelf causing it to fall to the ground.
For weeks I’d meaning to organize my home.
Only 24hrs before this murderous scene occurred, I’d repeatedly asked myself to “remove the nail varnishes” from the top shelf in case they’d fall.
I chose to ignore my inner wisdom, as many a career woman will do.
We’re too busy to listen to our own advice sometimes, right?
Anyway major guilt and shame set in when The Italian, knowing I was in a rush, offered to clean up my “bloody” mess.
I beat myself up big time that morning.
I felt bad for The Italian, then bad for my bathroom and then worse for myself.
Why couldn’t I just be more organized and learn not to leave things to the last minute?
It was then I realized that my little friend the comparison monkey had come out to play.
When I feel really shit, I know it’s because I’m expecting myself to be someone else.
Who was I insisting myself to be this time?
The Italian’s mother maybe?
She’s super organized at home and can cook for 20 people without breaking a sweat!
My good friend Amanda , (aka Bree from Desperate Housewives for her looks and domestic wisdom) who recently gave me advice on how to puree a pumpkin... WTF?
Yes apparently some women do have time for creating a perfect home life….
My Nona’s nagging was ringing in my head too that morning.
She thinks it’s best I quit any ambitions I have (if you’re busy you’re ambitious) and commit to becoming a “real woman”.
By that she means I simply cook, clean and raise children, like she did!
Standing there shivering in my towel post shower, looking at my ruined bathroom floor and comparing myself to these Italian “domestic goddesses”, Nona’s advice began to sound appealing .
Hence the need to get to work fast on a formula that will help break the habit of a lifetime, as outlined below!
CityGirl Guide: 3 Ways To Quit The Habits Of A Lifetime
1) Stop condemning yourself.
Whatever your habit is , it’s not going away by you shaming yourself.
Habits and addictions are there to serve a purpose, so consider this:
What do you get from your habit?
I get a kick from the pressure I put myself under when I leave things to the last minute.
What “pay off ” are you getting from your longstanding habits?
2) Connect the dots.
Now that you know what you get from the habit, list your top 3-5 important goals (or values if you know them, most people don’t) .
Ask yourself :
“How will quitting this habit enable me to fulfill these goals”?
For example, I’m now asking myself “How will completing my tasks sooner rather than later benefit and positively impact my health, career and overall wealth”?
You’ll need to link at least 25 to 100 ways you quitting the habit will serve you and get you to your highest goals.
You’re realigning your perception and brain here, I advise a celebratory drink on completion!
3) Find your truth.
It’s a lie that you’re only one sided, for example: ” always” chaotic, disorganised, or addicted to something.
You’re also the opposite, disciplined and organised or whatever, but in the areas that are most important to you.
I may not be organized and prepared at home but I’m major disciplined in my my health and image, these are simply areas of greater value to me.
So to safeguard your self-esteem and diminish stress immediately , find out where you’re the opposite to what you’re beating yourself up about.
What about you do you leave things to the last minute rush?
Do you have ways to overcome self-shaming and habits?
Recommended Resource: Slow Your Home
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